Question 1

How do you play OurTime?

Accepted Answer

Choose a deck that matches your context and mood, and start swiping through cards. One person reads the question out loud - then you both answer, or take turns answering each one separately. No rules, no timer, no wrong way to play. Just pick a card and go.

Question 2

Do both people need the app?

Accepted Answer

No. One phone is enough. One person holds the phone, reads the card, and the conversation starts from there. OurTime gives you a reason to put the mindless scrolling down - and actually talk to the person in front of you.

Question 3

How long does a session take?

Accepted Answer

As long as you want. Some people play for a few minutes, other for hours. There's no fixed session length - you set the pace. The app remembers where you left off, so you can always pick up later.

Question 4

Can you play OurTime over video call or long distance?

Accepted Answer

Yes. One person opens the app and reads the questions over a video call - it works exactly the same way at a distance. A lot of couples use it as a regular ritual on FaceTime or WhatsApp. Distance doesn't have to mean shallow conversations.

Question 5

Who creates the questions in OurTime?

Accepted Answer

Every question is carefully curated and reviewed with input from relationship therapists and psychologists - but the goal was never to make something clinical. The questions are designed to feel like something a really good friend would ask: the one you didn't know you needed until it was right in front of you. Nothing that sounds like a job interview. Nothing with an obvious answer. Just questions that create real connection.

Question 6

Will it feel too intense for someone I just met?

Accepted Answer

Not if you start at Light intensity. That level is built exactly for early-stage conversations - fun, easy, no pressure to be vulnerable before you're ready. Each deck has levels so you stay in control of how deep things go. Start light. Go deeper when it feels right.

Question 7

How do you use OurTime on a first date?

Accepted Answer

Open any deck - the Date Night ones are a natural fit - and start on Light intensity. Read a question, answer honestly, let your date respond. No score, no elimination, no awkward silences. Just a real reason to say something that actually matters and get to know each other beyond the usual first-date script.

Question 8

Are there explicit or adult questions?

Accepted Answer

Yes. The Desire & Attraction decks contain mature content rated 18+ and are designed to explore deeper physical attraction and emotional intimacy. They're completely opt-in - you always control which decks you play and at what intensity.

Question 9

What are the different intensity levels?

Accepted Answer

Each deck has 2–3 intensity levels depending on the deck. Light is easy, fun, and low-stakes - great as an icebreaker or conversation starter for couples on a first date. Deep gets more reflective and emotionally honest. Raw (available in the Desire deck only) is unfiltered, spicy, and intimate. You choose the level before you start.

Question 10

Are the questions based on science?

Accepted Answer

Yes. The structure draws from psychological research on closeness, attachment, and emotional intimacy - including frameworks that show how self-disclosure and mutual vulnerability build lasting connection. The science is in the bones of the app. What you feel on the surface is just a good conversation.

Question 11

What makes OurTime different from other conversation card game apps?

Accepted Answer

Most conversation card games hand you a list and call it done. OurTime is a full app experience - 1,500+ questions organized by mood, context, and intensity across 8 decks, with swipe and scroll game modes, therapist-reviewed questions, offline access, and decks built separately for couples, dates, close friends, and solo reflection. Every question has been manually reviewed to make sure nothing repeats or asks the same thing twice with different words. It's the only deep talk card game app designed for the full range of closeness - from first date to long-term partner.

Question 12

Will we eventually run out of questions?

Accepted Answer

With 1,500+ unique questions across 8 decks, most people never come close to running out. New questions and decks are added regularly, and premium members get access to fresh content as soon as it drops.

Question 13

Can I play questions from multiple decks at once?

Accepted Answer

Yes. Use the Play All button to shuffle questions across all decks in a category - so you get a mix of topics in a single session instead of staying in one deck. Great when you want variety without choosing every time.

Question 14

Can I save the questions I like most?

Accepted Answer

Yes. Any card you love gets saved to your Favorites deck, always within easy reach. It's a nice way to build your own little collection of questions that meant something - and revisit them whenever you want.

Question 15

Can I share a question with someone?

Accepted Answer

Of course. You can send any question directly through WhatsApp, iMessage, Instagram, or any app on your phone. Sometimes the best conversation starts with a single question dropped into a chat.

Question 16

How do I know when new decks or questions drop?

Accepted Answer

If you opt in to notifications, we'll send you one when something new is added - and that's the only reason we'll ever send you a notification. No reminders, no nudges, no "you haven't played in a while." Just the new stuff, when it arrives, if you want to know.

Question 17

Do I need Wi-Fi to play?

Accepted Answer

Premium members can play completely offline - on a plane, at a mountain cabin, or anywhere without signal. All 1,500+ cards are stored on your device automatically when you go premium. Free users need a connection to load cards.

Question 18

Is OurTime free to download?

Accepted Answer

Yes - free to download on the App Store (Google Play Store coming soon), no credit card required. Free users get 30 cards on first access, then 10 fresh cards every day to keep playing. If you want to try everything before committing, the 7-day free trial gives you unlimited access to all 1,500+ questions with no upfront payment. On day six, we'll remind you the trial is ending - so if it's not for you, you have time to cancel before anything is charged. We mean that. We'd rather you cancel than subscribe to something you don't love.

Question 19

What does premium unlock?

Accepted Answer

Premium unlocks the full library of 1,500+ questions, all 8 decks including the Desire & Attraction, Reflection, and Perspectives decks, offline mode so you can play anywhere without Wi-Fi, and completely unlimited access. Once you go premium, all cards are stored on your device automatically - no signal needed.

Question 20

How much does OurTime premium cost?

Accepted Answer

Premium starts at $4.99/month or $29.99/year — the annual plan works out to about $2.50 a month, which is less than a single coffee a month. Annual is the best value if you plan to use OurTime as a regular ritual, and it's 50% cheaper than paying monthly.

Question 21

Can I cancel anytime?

Accepted Answer

Yes, anytime - through your iPhone Settings, no hoops to jump through. When you cancel, you keep your 10 free cards per day. The conversations you've had don't disappear just because the subscription does.

Question 22

Is OurTime only for romantic couples?

Accepted Answer

Not at all. OurTime is a conversation card game for couples, dates, close friends - and yes, even for solo reflection if you want to sit with some honest questions on your own. The decks are organized by context so you're always playing questions that fit the situation, never ones that feel awkward for the room.

Question 23

Can you play with more than two people?

Accepted Answer

Yes. A lot of the decks work great in small groups - one person reads the card and everyone answers. The more people at the table, the more surprising it gets. Great for dinners, road trips, and group hangs where you want something better than small talk.

Question 24

Is this good for long-term couples who already know each other well?

Accepted Answer

Especially for them. The deeper intensity levels and the Attraction and Desire decks consistently surface things that partners - even after years together - never knew about each other. A lot of long-term couples use OurTime as a weekly ritual to stay curious and genuinely connected, not just coexisting.

Question 25

Can OurTime help improve communication in a relationship?

Accepted Answer

Yes. Regular, intentional conversation is one of the most research-backed ways to maintain emotional intimacy over time. OurTime gives you a low-pressure structure to talk about things that actually matter - without it ever feeling like couples therapy homework.

Question 26

Is my data private?

Accepted Answer

Yes. OurTime does not sell your data - full stop. You can play without ever creating an account and share no personal information at all. If you want the full details, they're at getourtime.app/privacy.

Question 27

Do I need to create an account?

Accepted Answer

No account needed to start playing. You can sign in optionally - with Apple or Google - to sync your favorites and progress across devices. It's a choice, not a requirement. We kept it that way on purpose.

OurTime Cards – Deep Talk Questions for Couples, Dates & Friends

The conversations you've been meaning to have.

Real questions.Real answers.Real connection.

Real questions.Real answers.Real connection.

Every deck openssomething different.

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Attraction

Reflection

Desire

Choices

Perspectives

Inner World

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